Wondering whether or not you've found true love? For some relationships it can be hard to tell, especially if you've never been in love before. Ask yourself the following questions so you'll know when its love.
Am I In Love Clue #1: Physical Responses
One of the ways to know its love is by the physical responses you have to your partner when in their presence or thinking about them. Do you shiver? Get goosebumps? Blush? Sweat? Feel tingly all over? Cry when saying goodbye? Get stomach flip flops or butterflies? Feel like there is a lump in your throat? Can't stop smiling? Feel warm and fuzzy? All of these physical responses are indicators that you may have found true love, but only when paired up with the other clues in this list.
Am I In Love Clue #2: Non-Obsessive Worry
You'll know when its love by the way you worry about your mate. Did they make it to work okay? Are they late because they were in an accident? Will they enjoy the dinner you painstakingly made for them? Of course, we all worry about our loved ones, but when you're in love with someone the worry takes on a different quality. At no point is it obsessive or negative however; rather, you are truly concerned for their well-being when in love.
Am I In Love Clue #3: Wanting the World To Know
A common trait amongst couples who are in love is that they feel compelled to tell the world that they love one another. Whether it is wanting to yell at the top of your lungs from the rooftops, "I love you," or taking the celebratory nature of love towards a more traditional route (marriage), true love is characterized by wanting everyone to know just how happy you are together.
Am I In Love Clue #4: Constant Reminders
You know you're in love when almost everything you experience reminds you of your mate. From the kind of coffee they drink to the smell of their cologne/perfume, from the way they say, "Hi!" to the silly way they tie their shoelaces, wherever you are, it all comes back to your partner.
Am I In Love Clue #5: Positive Thoughts
Being in love with someone means that you (mostly) see them through rose-colored glasses. In What is True Love, positive thoughts about your partner are a crucial element to continued love for your partner. In some circles this phenomena might be called "doing no wrong", but with healthy optimism and realism.
Monday, September 20, 2010
Long Distance Relationship Tips
Whether you’re leaving on a jet plane or your lover’s taking that midnight train to Georgia , there are lots of ways to bridge the distance. Staying connected, while miles apart, is easier than you think.
Long distance romances can work; they just need a little extra effort and some planning. The most successful Long Distance Relationships have a plan to manage the distance.
What many people don’t realize is there are many benefits to being in a long distance romance. When you understand how fortunate you are to have someone at the other end, willing to go the distance, you won’t waste another minute pining away for your lover.
No one chooses to be in a long distance relationship, often times they choose you. I have yet to meet anyone who set out to purposely find someone living hundreds of miles away, but you might meet someone while on vacation of traveling for business. And when cupid’s arrow hits, there’s no turning around.
So here are the facts: Ever since the times of the first wars, hunting expeditions and pilgrimages, circumstances have landed people in Long Distance Romances. In today’s fast-paced, increasingly mobilized world, people are increasingly finding themselves in long distance relationships. One in three American jobs involves some sort of travel. And according to recent census figures, about 2.4 million marriages actually involve one spouse living in another city.
Let’s get you busy fueling the flames in your romance.
If you think of the time apart from your lover as extended foreplay, the eventual connection can be pretty dynamic! People call it the "Honeymoon Effect," and it’s a way long distance relationships can keep the passion level high over time.
So, while it may be simple to lament and bemoan the situation, the reality of long distance relationships is that they are actually beneficial. This is a surprise to most people, but there are advantages in LDRs (long-distance relationships) that many people in NDRs ( near-distance relationships) will never experience.
Many long distance couples realized, often in hindsight, that after they were reunited with their lovers, the distance factor had actually brought with it considerable benefits. That’s why it’s even been proposed over the years that a period of separation be required for a marriage license.
Living your lives apart doesn’t mean your life is missing anything. And it doesn’t mean that you live in your relationships in stops (time apart) and starts (time together). Just as lovers who are present can seem absent, those who are absent can be made to seem present.
The first inherent benefit of a long distance relationship is that it allows you and your lover to appreciate one another and experience higher highs. If you spend time apart, you’ll naturally relish the time once you’re back together - especially if its only for a short time.
A big advantage of a long distance relationship is that it forces you to have a life of your own. Why spend your time at home pining and wasting away? Your lover did not fall in love with a homebody. Use this time apart to enrich yourself, as well as your relationship. By actively pursuing your own interests and learning more about yourself, you will find yourself bringing more into the relationship, leading to a richer understanding of both yourself, and subsequently, your lover.
When you’re not sitting around by the phone waiting to hear from your lover, you should get up and make things happen for yourself. Rather than keeping activities on hold pending on your lover’s interest and availability, you go out and do things for yourself.
Have a full, satisfying life when you’re apart. Don’t just keep busy-really accomplish things that matter to you. Especially consider getting involved in activities r charities which your lover wouldn’t care to join in on anyway. If you’re a more complete person when solo, it can only improve your romance together. This can lead to greater individual success and happiness which can only make you a better catch for your lover.
Long distance romances can work; they just need a little extra effort and some planning. The most successful Long Distance Relationships have a plan to manage the distance.
What many people don’t realize is there are many benefits to being in a long distance romance. When you understand how fortunate you are to have someone at the other end, willing to go the distance, you won’t waste another minute pining away for your lover.
No one chooses to be in a long distance relationship, often times they choose you. I have yet to meet anyone who set out to purposely find someone living hundreds of miles away, but you might meet someone while on vacation of traveling for business. And when cupid’s arrow hits, there’s no turning around.
So here are the facts: Ever since the times of the first wars, hunting expeditions and pilgrimages, circumstances have landed people in Long Distance Romances. In today’s fast-paced, increasingly mobilized world, people are increasingly finding themselves in long distance relationships. One in three American jobs involves some sort of travel. And according to recent census figures, about 2.4 million marriages actually involve one spouse living in another city.
Let’s get you busy fueling the flames in your romance.
If you think of the time apart from your lover as extended foreplay, the eventual connection can be pretty dynamic! People call it the "Honeymoon Effect," and it’s a way long distance relationships can keep the passion level high over time.
So, while it may be simple to lament and bemoan the situation, the reality of long distance relationships is that they are actually beneficial. This is a surprise to most people, but there are advantages in LDRs (long-distance relationships) that many people in NDRs ( near-distance relationships) will never experience.
Many long distance couples realized, often in hindsight, that after they were reunited with their lovers, the distance factor had actually brought with it considerable benefits. That’s why it’s even been proposed over the years that a period of separation be required for a marriage license.
Living your lives apart doesn’t mean your life is missing anything. And it doesn’t mean that you live in your relationships in stops (time apart) and starts (time together). Just as lovers who are present can seem absent, those who are absent can be made to seem present.
The first inherent benefit of a long distance relationship is that it allows you and your lover to appreciate one another and experience higher highs. If you spend time apart, you’ll naturally relish the time once you’re back together - especially if its only for a short time.
A big advantage of a long distance relationship is that it forces you to have a life of your own. Why spend your time at home pining and wasting away? Your lover did not fall in love with a homebody. Use this time apart to enrich yourself, as well as your relationship. By actively pursuing your own interests and learning more about yourself, you will find yourself bringing more into the relationship, leading to a richer understanding of both yourself, and subsequently, your lover.
When you’re not sitting around by the phone waiting to hear from your lover, you should get up and make things happen for yourself. Rather than keeping activities on hold pending on your lover’s interest and availability, you go out and do things for yourself.
Have a full, satisfying life when you’re apart. Don’t just keep busy-really accomplish things that matter to you. Especially consider getting involved in activities r charities which your lover wouldn’t care to join in on anyway. If you’re a more complete person when solo, it can only improve your romance together. This can lead to greater individual success and happiness which can only make you a better catch for your lover.
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
How to End a Short Term Relationship
Have you just started a new relationship and you are already questionning it ?
Here are the few steps you need to follow if you already want to get out of this new relationship
1.Sometimes you start a relationship and you start wondering how you ever got here in the first place. Obvioiusly if you have started dating someone, there must have been reasons for you to get involved : a certain physical attraction, nice moments you spent with this person, and then a kiss, which defines the moment you started a relationship.
2.But here you are, a few days or even weeks into this new relationship and you don't feel comfortable in it. You've already reached the point where you're trying to figure out how to get out of it while not hurting your new partner too much.
3.First thing first : try to make sure you do not want to pursue the relationship. No point in telling your partner you don't feel like going on if you're going to come back begging a few days later. So give yourself a little bit of time to be sure of your feeling.
4.Have you had an argument and are you mad at him/her ? Sometimes people can surprise you and you discover things about them you wouldn't have imagined in the first place. Are those differences incompatible with the way you picture a happy relationship ? If they are, then yes,there is no reason in getting more involved. If these bad feelings have a specific reason, maybe it would be good to talk about it to your partner.
5.But more importantly just trust your feeling because this is the easiest clue to your new relationship's future.If you haven't been together long and you're already bored, less attracted, even annoyed, or if you've realized this is more about friendship than possible love, don't lure yourself into thinking "you can make it work". You won't overcome your first feelings. Trust yourself.
6.How to end a short-term relationship ? Well the same way you would end any relationship.Be honest and straigt-forward. Don't give false excuses but just tell the truth. Il may not be easy because you may fear that your partner won't understant your reasons (after all you don't know him that well) ; but all this is not about rational reasons. It is only about the way you feel. And if you feel there is no chance in this relationship don't apologize for it. You can't make your feelings go away just by listening to apparently sound reasons. Wa have all at some point, left someone who tried to talk us out of it by pointing out the efforts he/she was going to make to adapt to what we wanted. But if someone has to change in the first place so that a relationship could work out, it is definitely a huge sign that you are not meant for each-other. So stand your ground. It's the best you can do for this person, even if he/she can't see it right now. And it's certainly the best you can do for yourself.
7.The last step : and of course as with any relationship, even if you haven't been together a long time, don't think you can go back to a normal friendship straight away. It IS probably the biggest lie we like to tell ourselves to apease the pain that breaking up implies. But give yourselves some time apart to learn how to be together again in a non-sentimental way. If the relationship was short it won't take as long as it might have with a longer one.
Tips
One thing ending a short-term relationship can bring you is to analyze the reasons why you chose to start a relationship with this particular person in the first place. Analyse the circumstances and why you obviously made a mistake because this will give you some indications about what not to do in the future.
Here are the few steps you need to follow if you already want to get out of this new relationship
1.Sometimes you start a relationship and you start wondering how you ever got here in the first place. Obvioiusly if you have started dating someone, there must have been reasons for you to get involved : a certain physical attraction, nice moments you spent with this person, and then a kiss, which defines the moment you started a relationship.
2.But here you are, a few days or even weeks into this new relationship and you don't feel comfortable in it. You've already reached the point where you're trying to figure out how to get out of it while not hurting your new partner too much.
3.First thing first : try to make sure you do not want to pursue the relationship. No point in telling your partner you don't feel like going on if you're going to come back begging a few days later. So give yourself a little bit of time to be sure of your feeling.
4.Have you had an argument and are you mad at him/her ? Sometimes people can surprise you and you discover things about them you wouldn't have imagined in the first place. Are those differences incompatible with the way you picture a happy relationship ? If they are, then yes,there is no reason in getting more involved. If these bad feelings have a specific reason, maybe it would be good to talk about it to your partner.
5.But more importantly just trust your feeling because this is the easiest clue to your new relationship's future.If you haven't been together long and you're already bored, less attracted, even annoyed, or if you've realized this is more about friendship than possible love, don't lure yourself into thinking "you can make it work". You won't overcome your first feelings. Trust yourself.
6.How to end a short-term relationship ? Well the same way you would end any relationship.Be honest and straigt-forward. Don't give false excuses but just tell the truth. Il may not be easy because you may fear that your partner won't understant your reasons (after all you don't know him that well) ; but all this is not about rational reasons. It is only about the way you feel. And if you feel there is no chance in this relationship don't apologize for it. You can't make your feelings go away just by listening to apparently sound reasons. Wa have all at some point, left someone who tried to talk us out of it by pointing out the efforts he/she was going to make to adapt to what we wanted. But if someone has to change in the first place so that a relationship could work out, it is definitely a huge sign that you are not meant for each-other. So stand your ground. It's the best you can do for this person, even if he/she can't see it right now. And it's certainly the best you can do for yourself.
7.The last step : and of course as with any relationship, even if you haven't been together a long time, don't think you can go back to a normal friendship straight away. It IS probably the biggest lie we like to tell ourselves to apease the pain that breaking up implies. But give yourselves some time apart to learn how to be together again in a non-sentimental way. If the relationship was short it won't take as long as it might have with a longer one.
Tips
One thing ending a short-term relationship can bring you is to analyze the reasons why you chose to start a relationship with this particular person in the first place. Analyse the circumstances and why you obviously made a mistake because this will give you some indications about what not to do in the future.
Saturday, July 25, 2009
Useful Tips About Dating Men
Have most of your single friends gotten engaged
or married in the last few years? Which leaves you
wondering…
Why isn't YOUR RELATIONSHIP moving forward?
Why doesn't a proposal seem like it's coming
any time soon - if at all - for you?
And why does it seem like such a struggle to
keep your relationship going, while other couples
are committing, in love, starting a family, and
making a future together?
And if that wasn't enough to make you feel
awful…
You observe that YOUR GUY gets all quiet
whenever he hears the news about yet ANOTHER
couple getting engaged or moving in together, and
seems to avoid the subject altogether.
Or worse… he's actually bothered and is
acting uncomfortable just at the THOUGHT of
commitment and marriage.
If you know what I'm talking about then I've
got bad news for you -
Have you ever heard of a "commitment-phobe"?
You may be dating one.
He may be doubting that he really wants to
spend "forever" with you.
Maybe he's simply afraid of the idea of
"forever".
Or maybe he just likes the idea that even
though you two may have an "understanding" that
you are a couple… he still has his "freedom" and
he isn't ready for happily ever after.
Or it is POSSIBLE that in the past he freely
gave his heart - only to be hurt and to not want
to "go there" again? Even with you?
As if all this wasn't confusing or frustrating
enough to figure out and know what to do with…
It hits you that maybe he's just a normal,
average guy who doesn't know what he wants.
So what are you supposed to do about THAT??!
Let me ask you…
Have you ever seen a man who you thought would
NEVER settle down and get married suddenly meet
the right woman and fall deeply in love with her?
A few weeks or months earlier this man might
have been talking about how he loves his single
life… and how he thinks he might never want to
get married… or at least until he's much older.
And then the right woman came along and all
that talk went out the window… as he seemed to
be magically transformed into a loving, caring,
loyal, committed man.
What happened?
Was he lying about wanting to stay single and
not get married?
Or did something change?
The truth is that men can come up with TONS of
reasons to NOT commit to a woman exclusively, and
to not want to "settle down".
But all the many reasons and beliefs that they
have can go out the window in a matter of
enchanted moments with the right woman.
Here's the point…
To SOME degree, most men are "hard-wired" to
feel like commitment isn't in their best interest,
and they act accordingly most of the time.
But…
All it takes is one good woman to come along
and change their entire BELIEF SYSTEM about what
LOVE and COMMITMENT really means… and how it
will affect their life.
The good news is that there are specific ways
that you can tap into the side of a man that will
open up to the benefits of a COMMITTED
RELATIONSHIP with you.
And you can do it more quickly and with less
"work" than you ever thought possible.
But only if you know how to communicate with a
man around the whole concept of COMMITMENT… and
show him how it's completely in HIS best interest.
He will be more open to the idea of commitment
if you know what triggers his commitment
resistance and how to avoid those triggers
This Meeting and Dating Men program will give you a
better understanding of what "commitment" really
means to a man, why men like to "just date"… and
how you can adjust your Commitment Timeline to his
so that you will ALWAYS know exactly what to say
and do (and when) in order to sync up with him as
you move forward and grow closer in your
relationship.
Don't wait for a man to figure things out and
lead your relationship forward on his own.
And don't make the mistake of trying to do all
the "heavy lifting" yourself to make things come
together and work in your relationship.
If you leave things up to a man and his
internal "wiring" that keeps him wanting to stay
"casual" and keep his freedom… then things
aren't going to move forward for you and grow more
committed on any level any time soon.
Some More useful tips
You can always hope that your relationship is for ever, but in reality this is rare. Here are seven useful tips to help you have a long and successful relationship.
Learn the art of compromising with your partner. Each of you must be respectful to your partner. You don’t always have to agree with each other but you must search for common ground that is acceptable to both of you. When decisions have to be taken you must both agree. Don’t get annoyed just to get a decision in your favor. Settle any discord there may be between the two of you, follow your main plan and place the smaller things in perspective. Afterwards you will likely be asking yourselves why these smaller matters points appeared to be seemed so important at the time when now you see them as insignificant.
You must learn how to communicate openly and honestly with your partner. State your case in a positive, constructive and polite manner, believing that you merit what you are asking for.Your partner will likely want to give you what is going to make you happy so they will agree as far as they can. You must try to understand why your partner thinks as they do when they say something which does not line up with your opinion. Learn to listen attentively without making any critical remarks.
Your partner must feel that you consider them as not only unique, but very special, and theymust feel safe and protected by you. Emphasize their better qualities, and avoid making anycomparisons between them and your earlier life. Give your partner approval and encouragement when they do something. Imagine your partner as the ideal person in your life, and build your life around them. Your partner must feel you give them first priority and you must learn to enjoy sharing your time with them. Your partner must find you a pleasant person to spend their time with so always try to keep yourself in good humor.
Your relationship requires a total commitment from both of you to make sure it will succeed. Don’t be diverted by small differences of opinion.
If there is conflict, handle the matter with care. Your partner may have done something that displeased you, but don’t forget that they likely did it with your best intentions in mind, and you mustn’t expect that they are able to read your mind. When you make a mistake, always apologize. Matters should be sorted out without criticizing your partner. Take responsibility but avoid unnecessary remarks about your partner, and share the common objective of continually trying to strengthen your relationship.
Be the first to offer aid even when it may not asked for.
Learning to forgive and forget is important factor in making a relationship work. It is a principal element of a successful relationship.. Being able to forgive a mistake will guarantee you life long happiness in return. Don’t waste your time harboring grievances, but learn to forgive and move on. If you don’t learn to let go, you will both of you end up living a very miserable life. Learn to forgive and forget if you want your romance to be a continual dream
Useful Tips For A Successful Relationship
Many people are using online dating as an alternative to meeting new people, people we would never have met had it not been for online dating. The idea of finding an activity partner, soul-mate, or a pen pal is somewhat new to us. However, thousands of people have had success at finding a partner through the use of an online dating site. But how can you guarantee the success of your newly found relationship?
In this article we will give you some useful tips you can follow to improve the longevity of your relationship.
You should date slowly.
All too often many singles get caught up in the heat of the moment and they tend to move a bit faster than they should. Multiple studies have proven that singles who have dated for at lease two years before they got married have a much better chance of having a successful marriage.
Dating slowly can be difficult. The combination of lust and physical attraction can force couples into a serious relationship before they are emotionally ready for it.
There are many older singles who tend to move faster during a relationship because they believe moving slowly is wasting time. However, it's better to be single and happy than it is to be in an unhappy relationship. You should take things slowly if you are seeking a serious long term relationship.
You should have realistic expectations.
We have all been influenced by the media in some way or another sometimes we may have unrealistic expectations about our relationships. Life can be a complicated and stressful experience, having a good relationship with your partner will not make life easier.
You must always date to please yourself.
We have all been taught that we should not be selfish however, when it comes down to whom you should date the rules may be different. Being selfish is crucial when choosing a relationship partner. If your friends and parents approve of your partner it's great. If your loved ones do not approve of your partner the final decision is yours.
You should date with a purpose.
We all have positive and negative things about us and our personality however, serious personality imperfections deserve special attention. If you are considering a long term relationship with someone you are dating you need to face the facts which has been responsible for many unsuccessful marriages.
If there are any personal problems that exist while you are dating they will not go away after you get married, sometimes they get worse.
The belief that problems such as drug dependency, alcoholism, and physical abuse will magically resolve on their own is wishful thinking. The best thing you can do is to deal with these problems early on in the relationship. If the person is unwilling or unable to change
, you should end the relationship and move on.
These are some guidelines you can follow to ensure the success of your relationship. Creating a solid foundation and dating slowly is the key to success in any relationship.
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