Wondering whether or not you've found true love? For some relationships it can be hard to tell, especially if you've never been in love before. Ask yourself the following questions so you'll know when its love.
Am I In Love Clue #1: Physical Responses
One of the ways to know its love is by the physical responses you have to your partner when in their presence or thinking about them. Do you shiver? Get goosebumps? Blush? Sweat? Feel tingly all over? Cry when saying goodbye? Get stomach flip flops or butterflies? Feel like there is a lump in your throat? Can't stop smiling? Feel warm and fuzzy? All of these physical responses are indicators that you may have found true love, but only when paired up with the other clues in this list.
Am I In Love Clue #2: Non-Obsessive Worry
You'll know when its love by the way you worry about your mate. Did they make it to work okay? Are they late because they were in an accident? Will they enjoy the dinner you painstakingly made for them? Of course, we all worry about our loved ones, but when you're in love with someone the worry takes on a different quality. At no point is it obsessive or negative however; rather, you are truly concerned for their well-being when in love.
Am I In Love Clue #3: Wanting the World To Know
A common trait amongst couples who are in love is that they feel compelled to tell the world that they love one another. Whether it is wanting to yell at the top of your lungs from the rooftops, "I love you," or taking the celebratory nature of love towards a more traditional route (marriage), true love is characterized by wanting everyone to know just how happy you are together.
Am I In Love Clue #4: Constant Reminders
You know you're in love when almost everything you experience reminds you of your mate. From the kind of coffee they drink to the smell of their cologne/perfume, from the way they say, "Hi!" to the silly way they tie their shoelaces, wherever you are, it all comes back to your partner.
Am I In Love Clue #5: Positive Thoughts
Being in love with someone means that you (mostly) see them through rose-colored glasses. In What is True Love, positive thoughts about your partner are a crucial element to continued love for your partner. In some circles this phenomena might be called "doing no wrong", but with healthy optimism and realism.
Monday, September 20, 2010
Long Distance Relationship Tips
Whether you’re leaving on a jet plane or your lover’s taking that midnight train to Georgia , there are lots of ways to bridge the distance. Staying connected, while miles apart, is easier than you think.
Long distance romances can work; they just need a little extra effort and some planning. The most successful Long Distance Relationships have a plan to manage the distance.
What many people don’t realize is there are many benefits to being in a long distance romance. When you understand how fortunate you are to have someone at the other end, willing to go the distance, you won’t waste another minute pining away for your lover.
No one chooses to be in a long distance relationship, often times they choose you. I have yet to meet anyone who set out to purposely find someone living hundreds of miles away, but you might meet someone while on vacation of traveling for business. And when cupid’s arrow hits, there’s no turning around.
So here are the facts: Ever since the times of the first wars, hunting expeditions and pilgrimages, circumstances have landed people in Long Distance Romances. In today’s fast-paced, increasingly mobilized world, people are increasingly finding themselves in long distance relationships. One in three American jobs involves some sort of travel. And according to recent census figures, about 2.4 million marriages actually involve one spouse living in another city.
Let’s get you busy fueling the flames in your romance.
If you think of the time apart from your lover as extended foreplay, the eventual connection can be pretty dynamic! People call it the "Honeymoon Effect," and it’s a way long distance relationships can keep the passion level high over time.
So, while it may be simple to lament and bemoan the situation, the reality of long distance relationships is that they are actually beneficial. This is a surprise to most people, but there are advantages in LDRs (long-distance relationships) that many people in NDRs ( near-distance relationships) will never experience.
Many long distance couples realized, often in hindsight, that after they were reunited with their lovers, the distance factor had actually brought with it considerable benefits. That’s why it’s even been proposed over the years that a period of separation be required for a marriage license.
Living your lives apart doesn’t mean your life is missing anything. And it doesn’t mean that you live in your relationships in stops (time apart) and starts (time together). Just as lovers who are present can seem absent, those who are absent can be made to seem present.
The first inherent benefit of a long distance relationship is that it allows you and your lover to appreciate one another and experience higher highs. If you spend time apart, you’ll naturally relish the time once you’re back together - especially if its only for a short time.
A big advantage of a long distance relationship is that it forces you to have a life of your own. Why spend your time at home pining and wasting away? Your lover did not fall in love with a homebody. Use this time apart to enrich yourself, as well as your relationship. By actively pursuing your own interests and learning more about yourself, you will find yourself bringing more into the relationship, leading to a richer understanding of both yourself, and subsequently, your lover.
When you’re not sitting around by the phone waiting to hear from your lover, you should get up and make things happen for yourself. Rather than keeping activities on hold pending on your lover’s interest and availability, you go out and do things for yourself.
Have a full, satisfying life when you’re apart. Don’t just keep busy-really accomplish things that matter to you. Especially consider getting involved in activities r charities which your lover wouldn’t care to join in on anyway. If you’re a more complete person when solo, it can only improve your romance together. This can lead to greater individual success and happiness which can only make you a better catch for your lover.
Long distance romances can work; they just need a little extra effort and some planning. The most successful Long Distance Relationships have a plan to manage the distance.
What many people don’t realize is there are many benefits to being in a long distance romance. When you understand how fortunate you are to have someone at the other end, willing to go the distance, you won’t waste another minute pining away for your lover.
No one chooses to be in a long distance relationship, often times they choose you. I have yet to meet anyone who set out to purposely find someone living hundreds of miles away, but you might meet someone while on vacation of traveling for business. And when cupid’s arrow hits, there’s no turning around.
So here are the facts: Ever since the times of the first wars, hunting expeditions and pilgrimages, circumstances have landed people in Long Distance Romances. In today’s fast-paced, increasingly mobilized world, people are increasingly finding themselves in long distance relationships. One in three American jobs involves some sort of travel. And according to recent census figures, about 2.4 million marriages actually involve one spouse living in another city.
Let’s get you busy fueling the flames in your romance.
If you think of the time apart from your lover as extended foreplay, the eventual connection can be pretty dynamic! People call it the "Honeymoon Effect," and it’s a way long distance relationships can keep the passion level high over time.
So, while it may be simple to lament and bemoan the situation, the reality of long distance relationships is that they are actually beneficial. This is a surprise to most people, but there are advantages in LDRs (long-distance relationships) that many people in NDRs ( near-distance relationships) will never experience.
Many long distance couples realized, often in hindsight, that after they were reunited with their lovers, the distance factor had actually brought with it considerable benefits. That’s why it’s even been proposed over the years that a period of separation be required for a marriage license.
Living your lives apart doesn’t mean your life is missing anything. And it doesn’t mean that you live in your relationships in stops (time apart) and starts (time together). Just as lovers who are present can seem absent, those who are absent can be made to seem present.
The first inherent benefit of a long distance relationship is that it allows you and your lover to appreciate one another and experience higher highs. If you spend time apart, you’ll naturally relish the time once you’re back together - especially if its only for a short time.
A big advantage of a long distance relationship is that it forces you to have a life of your own. Why spend your time at home pining and wasting away? Your lover did not fall in love with a homebody. Use this time apart to enrich yourself, as well as your relationship. By actively pursuing your own interests and learning more about yourself, you will find yourself bringing more into the relationship, leading to a richer understanding of both yourself, and subsequently, your lover.
When you’re not sitting around by the phone waiting to hear from your lover, you should get up and make things happen for yourself. Rather than keeping activities on hold pending on your lover’s interest and availability, you go out and do things for yourself.
Have a full, satisfying life when you’re apart. Don’t just keep busy-really accomplish things that matter to you. Especially consider getting involved in activities r charities which your lover wouldn’t care to join in on anyway. If you’re a more complete person when solo, it can only improve your romance together. This can lead to greater individual success and happiness which can only make you a better catch for your lover.
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