Wondering whether or not you've found true love? For some relationships it can be hard to tell, especially if you've never been in love before. Ask yourself the following questions so you'll know when its love.
Am I In Love Clue #1: Physical Responses
One of the ways to know its love is by the physical responses you have to your partner when in their presence or thinking about them. Do you shiver? Get goosebumps? Blush? Sweat? Feel tingly all over? Cry when saying goodbye? Get stomach flip flops or butterflies? Feel like there is a lump in your throat? Can't stop smiling? Feel warm and fuzzy? All of these physical responses are indicators that you may have found true love, but only when paired up with the other clues in this list.
Am I In Love Clue #2: Non-Obsessive Worry
You'll know when its love by the way you worry about your mate. Did they make it to work okay? Are they late because they were in an accident? Will they enjoy the dinner you painstakingly made for them? Of course, we all worry about our loved ones, but when you're in love with someone the worry takes on a different quality. At no point is it obsessive or negative however; rather, you are truly concerned for their well-being when in love.
Am I In Love Clue #3: Wanting the World To Know
A common trait amongst couples who are in love is that they feel compelled to tell the world that they love one another. Whether it is wanting to yell at the top of your lungs from the rooftops, "I love you," or taking the celebratory nature of love towards a more traditional route (marriage), true love is characterized by wanting everyone to know just how happy you are together.
Am I In Love Clue #4: Constant Reminders
You know you're in love when almost everything you experience reminds you of your mate. From the kind of coffee they drink to the smell of their cologne/perfume, from the way they say, "Hi!" to the silly way they tie their shoelaces, wherever you are, it all comes back to your partner.
Am I In Love Clue #5: Positive Thoughts
Being in love with someone means that you (mostly) see them through rose-colored glasses. In What is True Love, positive thoughts about your partner are a crucial element to continued love for your partner. In some circles this phenomena might be called "doing no wrong", but with healthy optimism and realism.
Monday, September 20, 2010
Long Distance Relationship Tips
Whether you’re leaving on a jet plane or your lover’s taking that midnight train to Georgia , there are lots of ways to bridge the distance. Staying connected, while miles apart, is easier than you think.
Long distance romances can work; they just need a little extra effort and some planning. The most successful Long Distance Relationships have a plan to manage the distance.
What many people don’t realize is there are many benefits to being in a long distance romance. When you understand how fortunate you are to have someone at the other end, willing to go the distance, you won’t waste another minute pining away for your lover.
No one chooses to be in a long distance relationship, often times they choose you. I have yet to meet anyone who set out to purposely find someone living hundreds of miles away, but you might meet someone while on vacation of traveling for business. And when cupid’s arrow hits, there’s no turning around.
So here are the facts: Ever since the times of the first wars, hunting expeditions and pilgrimages, circumstances have landed people in Long Distance Romances. In today’s fast-paced, increasingly mobilized world, people are increasingly finding themselves in long distance relationships. One in three American jobs involves some sort of travel. And according to recent census figures, about 2.4 million marriages actually involve one spouse living in another city.
Let’s get you busy fueling the flames in your romance.
If you think of the time apart from your lover as extended foreplay, the eventual connection can be pretty dynamic! People call it the "Honeymoon Effect," and it’s a way long distance relationships can keep the passion level high over time.
So, while it may be simple to lament and bemoan the situation, the reality of long distance relationships is that they are actually beneficial. This is a surprise to most people, but there are advantages in LDRs (long-distance relationships) that many people in NDRs ( near-distance relationships) will never experience.
Many long distance couples realized, often in hindsight, that after they were reunited with their lovers, the distance factor had actually brought with it considerable benefits. That’s why it’s even been proposed over the years that a period of separation be required for a marriage license.
Living your lives apart doesn’t mean your life is missing anything. And it doesn’t mean that you live in your relationships in stops (time apart) and starts (time together). Just as lovers who are present can seem absent, those who are absent can be made to seem present.
The first inherent benefit of a long distance relationship is that it allows you and your lover to appreciate one another and experience higher highs. If you spend time apart, you’ll naturally relish the time once you’re back together - especially if its only for a short time.
A big advantage of a long distance relationship is that it forces you to have a life of your own. Why spend your time at home pining and wasting away? Your lover did not fall in love with a homebody. Use this time apart to enrich yourself, as well as your relationship. By actively pursuing your own interests and learning more about yourself, you will find yourself bringing more into the relationship, leading to a richer understanding of both yourself, and subsequently, your lover.
When you’re not sitting around by the phone waiting to hear from your lover, you should get up and make things happen for yourself. Rather than keeping activities on hold pending on your lover’s interest and availability, you go out and do things for yourself.
Have a full, satisfying life when you’re apart. Don’t just keep busy-really accomplish things that matter to you. Especially consider getting involved in activities r charities which your lover wouldn’t care to join in on anyway. If you’re a more complete person when solo, it can only improve your romance together. This can lead to greater individual success and happiness which can only make you a better catch for your lover.
Long distance romances can work; they just need a little extra effort and some planning. The most successful Long Distance Relationships have a plan to manage the distance.
What many people don’t realize is there are many benefits to being in a long distance romance. When you understand how fortunate you are to have someone at the other end, willing to go the distance, you won’t waste another minute pining away for your lover.
No one chooses to be in a long distance relationship, often times they choose you. I have yet to meet anyone who set out to purposely find someone living hundreds of miles away, but you might meet someone while on vacation of traveling for business. And when cupid’s arrow hits, there’s no turning around.
So here are the facts: Ever since the times of the first wars, hunting expeditions and pilgrimages, circumstances have landed people in Long Distance Romances. In today’s fast-paced, increasingly mobilized world, people are increasingly finding themselves in long distance relationships. One in three American jobs involves some sort of travel. And according to recent census figures, about 2.4 million marriages actually involve one spouse living in another city.
Let’s get you busy fueling the flames in your romance.
If you think of the time apart from your lover as extended foreplay, the eventual connection can be pretty dynamic! People call it the "Honeymoon Effect," and it’s a way long distance relationships can keep the passion level high over time.
So, while it may be simple to lament and bemoan the situation, the reality of long distance relationships is that they are actually beneficial. This is a surprise to most people, but there are advantages in LDRs (long-distance relationships) that many people in NDRs ( near-distance relationships) will never experience.
Many long distance couples realized, often in hindsight, that after they were reunited with their lovers, the distance factor had actually brought with it considerable benefits. That’s why it’s even been proposed over the years that a period of separation be required for a marriage license.
Living your lives apart doesn’t mean your life is missing anything. And it doesn’t mean that you live in your relationships in stops (time apart) and starts (time together). Just as lovers who are present can seem absent, those who are absent can be made to seem present.
The first inherent benefit of a long distance relationship is that it allows you and your lover to appreciate one another and experience higher highs. If you spend time apart, you’ll naturally relish the time once you’re back together - especially if its only for a short time.
A big advantage of a long distance relationship is that it forces you to have a life of your own. Why spend your time at home pining and wasting away? Your lover did not fall in love with a homebody. Use this time apart to enrich yourself, as well as your relationship. By actively pursuing your own interests and learning more about yourself, you will find yourself bringing more into the relationship, leading to a richer understanding of both yourself, and subsequently, your lover.
When you’re not sitting around by the phone waiting to hear from your lover, you should get up and make things happen for yourself. Rather than keeping activities on hold pending on your lover’s interest and availability, you go out and do things for yourself.
Have a full, satisfying life when you’re apart. Don’t just keep busy-really accomplish things that matter to you. Especially consider getting involved in activities r charities which your lover wouldn’t care to join in on anyway. If you’re a more complete person when solo, it can only improve your romance together. This can lead to greater individual success and happiness which can only make you a better catch for your lover.
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
How to End a Short Term Relationship
Have you just started a new relationship and you are already questionning it ?
Here are the few steps you need to follow if you already want to get out of this new relationship
1.Sometimes you start a relationship and you start wondering how you ever got here in the first place. Obvioiusly if you have started dating someone, there must have been reasons for you to get involved : a certain physical attraction, nice moments you spent with this person, and then a kiss, which defines the moment you started a relationship.
2.But here you are, a few days or even weeks into this new relationship and you don't feel comfortable in it. You've already reached the point where you're trying to figure out how to get out of it while not hurting your new partner too much.
3.First thing first : try to make sure you do not want to pursue the relationship. No point in telling your partner you don't feel like going on if you're going to come back begging a few days later. So give yourself a little bit of time to be sure of your feeling.
4.Have you had an argument and are you mad at him/her ? Sometimes people can surprise you and you discover things about them you wouldn't have imagined in the first place. Are those differences incompatible with the way you picture a happy relationship ? If they are, then yes,there is no reason in getting more involved. If these bad feelings have a specific reason, maybe it would be good to talk about it to your partner.
5.But more importantly just trust your feeling because this is the easiest clue to your new relationship's future.If you haven't been together long and you're already bored, less attracted, even annoyed, or if you've realized this is more about friendship than possible love, don't lure yourself into thinking "you can make it work". You won't overcome your first feelings. Trust yourself.
6.How to end a short-term relationship ? Well the same way you would end any relationship.Be honest and straigt-forward. Don't give false excuses but just tell the truth. Il may not be easy because you may fear that your partner won't understant your reasons (after all you don't know him that well) ; but all this is not about rational reasons. It is only about the way you feel. And if you feel there is no chance in this relationship don't apologize for it. You can't make your feelings go away just by listening to apparently sound reasons. Wa have all at some point, left someone who tried to talk us out of it by pointing out the efforts he/she was going to make to adapt to what we wanted. But if someone has to change in the first place so that a relationship could work out, it is definitely a huge sign that you are not meant for each-other. So stand your ground. It's the best you can do for this person, even if he/she can't see it right now. And it's certainly the best you can do for yourself.
7.The last step : and of course as with any relationship, even if you haven't been together a long time, don't think you can go back to a normal friendship straight away. It IS probably the biggest lie we like to tell ourselves to apease the pain that breaking up implies. But give yourselves some time apart to learn how to be together again in a non-sentimental way. If the relationship was short it won't take as long as it might have with a longer one.
Tips
One thing ending a short-term relationship can bring you is to analyze the reasons why you chose to start a relationship with this particular person in the first place. Analyse the circumstances and why you obviously made a mistake because this will give you some indications about what not to do in the future.
Here are the few steps you need to follow if you already want to get out of this new relationship
1.Sometimes you start a relationship and you start wondering how you ever got here in the first place. Obvioiusly if you have started dating someone, there must have been reasons for you to get involved : a certain physical attraction, nice moments you spent with this person, and then a kiss, which defines the moment you started a relationship.
2.But here you are, a few days or even weeks into this new relationship and you don't feel comfortable in it. You've already reached the point where you're trying to figure out how to get out of it while not hurting your new partner too much.
3.First thing first : try to make sure you do not want to pursue the relationship. No point in telling your partner you don't feel like going on if you're going to come back begging a few days later. So give yourself a little bit of time to be sure of your feeling.
4.Have you had an argument and are you mad at him/her ? Sometimes people can surprise you and you discover things about them you wouldn't have imagined in the first place. Are those differences incompatible with the way you picture a happy relationship ? If they are, then yes,there is no reason in getting more involved. If these bad feelings have a specific reason, maybe it would be good to talk about it to your partner.
5.But more importantly just trust your feeling because this is the easiest clue to your new relationship's future.If you haven't been together long and you're already bored, less attracted, even annoyed, or if you've realized this is more about friendship than possible love, don't lure yourself into thinking "you can make it work". You won't overcome your first feelings. Trust yourself.
6.How to end a short-term relationship ? Well the same way you would end any relationship.Be honest and straigt-forward. Don't give false excuses but just tell the truth. Il may not be easy because you may fear that your partner won't understant your reasons (after all you don't know him that well) ; but all this is not about rational reasons. It is only about the way you feel. And if you feel there is no chance in this relationship don't apologize for it. You can't make your feelings go away just by listening to apparently sound reasons. Wa have all at some point, left someone who tried to talk us out of it by pointing out the efforts he/she was going to make to adapt to what we wanted. But if someone has to change in the first place so that a relationship could work out, it is definitely a huge sign that you are not meant for each-other. So stand your ground. It's the best you can do for this person, even if he/she can't see it right now. And it's certainly the best you can do for yourself.
7.The last step : and of course as with any relationship, even if you haven't been together a long time, don't think you can go back to a normal friendship straight away. It IS probably the biggest lie we like to tell ourselves to apease the pain that breaking up implies. But give yourselves some time apart to learn how to be together again in a non-sentimental way. If the relationship was short it won't take as long as it might have with a longer one.
Tips
One thing ending a short-term relationship can bring you is to analyze the reasons why you chose to start a relationship with this particular person in the first place. Analyse the circumstances and why you obviously made a mistake because this will give you some indications about what not to do in the future.
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